Do you have a narcissist in your life?
We’ve all known one at some point or another. They may be in your family, social circle or office.
Sure, they may be tolerable sometimes – but that’s only if they’re not coming after you.
According to psychologist Karyl McBride, if they do decide to come after you, you’d better watch out. They don’t play nice.
According to McBride, at the core of a narcissist is a “fragile ego, a thin skin, and self-loathing behavior.”
They project these bad feelings onto others, because they can’t deal with their own emotions.
McBride says that they’re rarely accountable and consistently seek other people to blame.
However, McBride says that there’s one thing that remains true when dealing with a narcassist:
You better watch out or they’re negativity will engulf you. If it is directed at you, you will feel blindsided.
Luckily, McBride also laid out some excellent quick fire tips to deal with them. Here are they:
1. Ignore. Like dealing with a bully, if you ignore the harshness, it gives them no satisfaction, and they will find someone else to pick on.
2. Don’t take the bait and fight with them. Turn the other cheek, and don’t justify or defend your actions to them when you do.
3. Understand their criticism for what it is: It is not about you. It is about their disorder. Don’t personalize what is said to you.
4. When you communicate, set clear boundaries, and use clear communication. Say what you mean directly.
5. If you have to make a decision to stay away, make it clearly and boldly, and follow through.
6. Believe in your own intuition and feelings. Our bodies tell us when something is not right, and when people are treating us badly.
7. Remember, you get to protect you, and you can do it. Don’t expect other people to rescue you from a narcissist. It is empowering to stand up to them and claim your voice.
8. Remember that we all deserve to be treated with kindness and compassion. It’s a worthwhile goal to work to bring more kindness into the world for others. Be an example for your kids, friends, and family.