What’s the secret to a happy relationship?
It’s not an easy question to answer.
But you probably know some people that always seem to be in a perfect relationship.
How do they do it? Do they know some secret that you don’t?
Actually, yes, they do!
It may be a little known technique but some people know the key to a meaningful and fulfilling relationship.
As a family therapist and relationship expert, Liz Higgins is one of those people.
She says that a crucial factor that’s often ignored is how you deal with your relationship in public. Yes, in public because that’s where the magic will happen!
And today I’m going to share with you her 3 keys for treating your partner in public.
1) Speak Positively About Partner
This is a major requirement and is the secret to your success.
Couples often let others into their world, and that’s when a mess is made. If you let a third-party full access into your life and make sure to tell them every negative detail about your significant other, the mess will be hard to contain.
You are going to let a lot of negativity filter in by doing this, and that is when relationships fall apart. The real problem becomes when your significant other starts to realize what is going on.
They might hear it from somewhere, or they might feel it while speaking to others and that’s a major issue. They will start to lose trust and respect for you, which is when things fall apart.
If you’re not doing this right now, then pay attention to those who are. It could be a co-worker, sibling, or someone else. If they are coming to you and spreading negativity about their partner, then you will understand where their relationship is headed.
Sure, when you are on the other end of this conversation, you will have a lot of fun with it, but this is all you’re getting.
Yet, people continue to share their information as if it should be made available publically. Be smart and don’t go down this route unless you want the relationship to become a thing of the past. This is not a positive change, and it is one you have to pay attention to at all times.
2) Learn To Keep Secrets
Trust is a major issue and is the foundation of your relationship. If your significant other is sharing something important with you, then he/she does not want it to spread outside.
They don’t want it to get to others who are going to voice their personal opinion or might judge them. Instead, they want you in on the issue and no one else.
If you spread it, you have lost their trust, and they might never come back to you ever again regardless of how hard you try.
Many relationships are built with a lack of trust, and that is a real concern in the long-term.
3) Accept Issues and Deal With Them Wisely
You will hear people state they are sharing information with the public because their relationship is unstable or they don’t feel happy. Well, this is normal, and that is something you are going to go through in a relationship, but that doesn’t mean you resort to public antics.
If you do this, you are pushing the relationship to its breaking point faster than it would have got there in any other circumstance.
Speak to a counselor and see what he/she has to say about the relationship. Let them go through the nitty-gritty details and see what can be done. You will be surprised as to how much of a difference this can make. If you are already sharing stuff to the public, it will be much harder to get the relationship back to where it needs to be.
Start here and use this secret to your benefit. Yes, it is not going to be easy and you might already have begun making this mistake, but it is time to change. You have to be open and honest with your partner as that is the only way to go. If you are not doing this, it is all going to come back to haunt you.
Be on top of things and keep things resolute in public, so your relationship stays sheltered.