Women have been the rock of families, communities, relationships, and business for as long as history allows us to remember.
Even though women don’t always get the credit they deserve, it’s hard to imagine the strength and courage women muster up everyday to go out and live their lives so that you don’t know they are dying on the inside.
There’s a number of things that can go wrong, and do, in a woman’s life, but a strong woman knows that she needs to pick herself up, dust herself off, and get on with life while there is still life to live.
Here’s how strong women can be broken on the inside, but you’d never know it by looking at her.
1) She Smiles Through it All
The strong woman won’t let you see her cry. She holds her head high during times of turmoil, especially when related to her job or business.
Pride can get in the way here, but the bottom line is that she doesn’t gain anything from letting you see her break, so she smiles through the trouble and all the while is looking for ways to bring herself back from the brink of destruction.
It’s a hard road to walk, and women usually walk it alone because people aren’t talking about how hard life can be sometimes.
Women have an overwhelming sense to protect those around them and don’t want to burden others with their problems. So they smile and nod and carry on like everything is copacetic.
2) She Hides Her Vulnerability
When it comes to relationships, the world we live in likes to remind us that we can do it all, be all, and experience it all without breaking down. Songs by popular artists such as Beyonce (and Destiny’s Child, if you old enough to remember them), sing about how important female independence is, and that makes it difficult for women to show their vulnerable side to the world.
Women get scared and worried as much as anyone else, but they feel the burden to keep the world turning and don’t bother others with this lack of self-confidence.
3) She Continues to Put Others First
Women have an incredible ability to listen. Sorry, dudes, but it’s true. Women are just better listeners. And when a woman is feeling at her lowest, she finds her strength in helping others.
She’ll turn to a friend in need or a coworker who is struggling with a project, and she’ll focus her energy on those external sources of solace so she doesn’t have to share her misery with you.
When she finally gets home after a long day, she’s still fighting the urge to let go and just cry a good cry. It is heartbreaking to think that women feel the need to be so strong in public that they can’t share their own problems with others who may be able to help them. But instead, they help those who cannot contain their sadness or misery.
What’s important here is to remember that what you see is not always what you get with a strong woman. What appears to be put together on the outside might be scared and alone on the inside.
It can be overwhelming for a strong woman, or a woman who thinks others expect her to be strong, to ask for help. It can be difficult to admit to the world that you are not what they think you are; but there is also freedom in it. Why do we need to rise to the expectations of others?
Why don’t we spend more time trying to please ourselves or meet our own expectations. What if we decided it was okay to cry, be vulnerable and put ourselves first for once?
Imagine what might happen if women stopped carrying the weight of the world on their shoulders.
The next time you catch a woman huffing under her breathe or looking like she needs a break, offer to chat with her, and remind her that it’s okay to be herself, no matter what the world thinks.